Seems like I’ve been on this trip forever and a day. I’m not ready to get off yet. Some things still work for me. The digging, self reflections – the archeology of my self is a worthwhile journey. At times I do feel a bit egotistical, being so obsessed and self absorbed. But at least I’m not alone in this. It is endorsed by others greater than I.
- ”You cannot have a meaningful life without having self-reflection.” —Oprah Winfrey
- ”One of the greatest tragedies in life is to lose your own sense of self and accept the version of you that is expected by everyone else.” —K.L. Toth
- ”It is always our own self that we find at the end of the journey. The sooner we face that self, the better.” – Ella Maillart
- ”Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung
- The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination… until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” – Iyanla Vanzant
- ”Honest self-reflection opens your mind to reprogramming, change, success and freedom.” —Unknown
I shall continued on. Perhaps I need to change, to switch onto a different track. I could be more light spirited. I could change the tint of my glasses. Perhaps then I can speak in a different voice. It’s been pointed out to me that my self-blame and guilt could be the result of my lack of control of others’ actions. There’s a lot of truth in that – for myself at least. I’ve crossed that bridge. I’ve come out of the tunnel. I have the understanding now but feelings don’t vanish overnight. I will have to relive those feeling again and again, until I’ve crossed enough bridges and crawled out of many tunnels.
Life is a never ending journey of bridges and tunnels. I haven’t found the way to light heartedness yet. My world is a serious place but I am not full of misery either.
onethousandandtwo 
I can identify with your blog :o) When I respond to my environment in an unpleasant way (stress, guilt, fear, anxiety, judgment, doubt, etc.), with a true sense of curiosity I stop and ask myself ‘what if I chose something different?’ The possibilities are unending, the choice (with practice!) really is mine!
Thanks Judi! The choice really is ours.
Lily
All these words are so true and so wise; at times when I find myself irritated at someone, I do end up realizing it is something I am doing wrong as well – so I am actually irritated at myself, and I have also noticed that if I end up fixing that issue in me, I no longer was irritated at others when they made that mistake, instead I knew how I could help them fix it, so I did!
It is hard for me to admit that I’m really mad at myself. Learning is hard. Thanks for reading.
Lily
Hi Lily…I believe that the only thing we can control is our own mind, not what others think, do or say and not the circumstances we find ourselves in other than those we caused ourselves. i hope you find your way to light-heartedness. It’s a fun place to be.
I’m slowly getting there, Karen. I fight against myself so much. What a dummy. 🙂
Lily
I realized that life got a lot easier when I accepted the fact, that in the end, I do not have control of everything. (anything?) I just go ahead and trust that the bridge will support me.
Acceptance and the light came slowly to me. Still it is better late than never. Thanks for reading, Doug.
Lily