Let me not waste time
My goal today is not to waste so much time pondering on things that I do not understand. There are
some/many things that my understanding or not adds zilch to my quality of life. It is an addiction and a flaw of mine. I know I cannot possibly put myself into someone else’s head and figure out their mechanics. It is perhaps that impossibility that hooks me. It is a job. It’s that shepna Pema Choedron talks about. It is why weI suffer. I have work ahead of me to do. Today is another first day of the rest of my life.
I have already squandered away part of an hour investigating someone else’s behaviour. It is mine that is in question. I’m the only one that I can control and change. How could I possibly get into another’s head. How can I understand how their mechanics work? How stupid is that when it matters not? The mystery is the hook. The solution is not to bite. So I take a deep breath and let go of the hook. It is not that interesting. It is just a habit of mine, wanting to understand everything, thinking everything has to do with me. It does not. I am not all that powerful.
Onward and forward I march towards my goal. How do I overcome my lassitude? Is it physical or psychological? Does it matter which? I don’t need to figure it out. In the end, it is physical action/movement that will get me there. I’m sticking to what works for me. Regina Brett’s advice, no matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up, works for me. It’s what keeps me coming back to the page. Now I have to apply that principle to the rest of the day.
It helps that I can understand my physical and emotional self. I know I have this lassitude. I can while the day away on the couch doing nothing. I wouldn’t feel the better for it. Or I can bite the bullet and bear the discomfort, put in a little effort and rise to the moment. I have done that. So the sheets are changed. The bed is made with fresh linen. The old ones are being laundered and dried. The 2nd pail of concord grapes are washed and draining, to be process later. I have tulip and lily bulbs to be planted. I better do that today while the sun is shining.
It is and it isn’t really hard to unhook myself from unanswerable questions. I just have to ask myself what does it matter knowing or not knowing. How would that change or add anything to my life? That would stop my ponderings, chewings and regurgitating endlessly. There’s a beautiful world out there to enjoy.
9 thoughts on “DAY 4 UBC – LET ME NOT WASTE TIME”
I agree – yes, I work on that every morning as I walk in the fresh air just before daylight. I remind myself that for me, I am and that is enough. I do miss planting tulips but they would never make it in the part of Mexico so I must study and learn about the plants and flowers that will. Isn’t life grand when we take the people out of our minds and replace them with nature and the wonders of life.
Thanks, William. 50 bulbs later, I’m stiff this morning. I have 50 more to go. At least we’re having a stretch of warm weather to do it.
Touche! Stop worrying about others and just deal with ourselves.
Thank you, Roy.
Self-reflection is such a great teacher and motivator to action. Thanks for the reminder that I can only change myself.
Thanks for reading and commenting, Florence.
It’s a good reminder – to use our time wisely and not get caught in thoughts that aren’t helpful. Wishing you a lovely week, Lily.
Thank you very much, Lori.
I’ve learned to not worry about what others think or say, my life is busy enough.Hope you had a great day.