Here I am, back in this space, tapping out my words and thoughts. It’s easy to let go of things, routines, habits, dreams and desires. I always have to pull myself up by the bootstraps and rise from my ever present inertia. It is easy for me to go with the flow but it is not good for me. I have to row against the tide. Otherwise I will be just treading water,  to keep from drowning in the sea of clutter and unfinished projects. The Jesus cross stitch is one of many. I’ve started it many years if not decades ago. My starts are in fits – weeks, months and years apart. I will have to do better than that to get it finished. I can do better. I can work on it for 20 minutes a day to see what results I get. I will start now.

I am surprised that I can get in quite a few stitches in 20 minutes. I am now on day 2 of my project of getting things done. I’m applying the same method to read the Mindfulness Prescription for Adult ADHD, 20 minutes/day. I’m being accountable by being here, tapping out the results. I’m going through some emotional turmoils today. I’m being mindful, observing my feelings in the moment, not running away from them. But I do not want them to colour me for the rest of the day and forever. I’m implementing small moments to interrupt my blues. There’s many short inspiring videos on YouTube that does the trick for me. Oprah is very cheerful and peppy.

What works the best for me is, of course, getting up and making that cuppa. It changes my posture and my environment. I have to get up and go to the kitchen to put the kettle on. My thoughts and emotions get a short interruption. It’s like that for me today. But I have the Jesus stitches in and the reading done. A few squares of free motion stitching on my table cloth are done without mishap. I’ve started an index card painting and am trying to finish this post. I’m still singing the blues on and off but the important thing is I can turn it off. It’s good enough.

About hafong

Hello! My name is (Leung) Hafong alias Lily Leung. You always say the last name first….that is the Chinese way. That is my partner lurking behind me. Since this is my blog, I won’t mention his name. But this is a rather cool picture. You see me and yet you don’t…sort of the way I feel about myself most of my life. So this blog is a self-exploration, an archeology dig of some sort. My tools…..words of a thousand or so at a sitting. I will try for that.
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  1. terry fishman says:

    Your stitchery is amazing as are your blogs. My husband had AADHD, certainly a challenge especially navigating aging but with many techniques and support it’s workable. Thank G d I have my art to tune him out at times!!! Gotta have a sense of humour and coping skills. Such is Life❤️

    • hafong says:

      Thank you, Terry! Yes we are lucky we have so many tools at hand to help us. I have to learn to tune out better things that get on that one nerve I have left. 🙂

  2. I’m also trying to finish more of what I start by forming new habits. I now make it a point to start each day with Bible reading and prayer and then a session with my Drops app I’m using to review my German to help my aging brain. I find if I don’t do these things before I leave the sanctuary of my bedroom each morning they just don’t get done. Once I go out that bedroom door, distractions and new chores get put on me immediately and the day disappears before I know it. I keep all my phones on “do not disturb” until I get through those morning routines. This seems to work for me.

    • hafong says:

      Sounds like you have a working plan, Barb. There are so many distractions and I’m easily led astray. That’s what I’m trying to do, too, to get the things I want to do first.

  3. terry fishman says:

    Let me correct my post….my husband “has” not had AADHD😉

  4. Eydie says:

    You have a lot of projects going at once. That in and of itself is overwhelming. Nothing gets done when there are too many irons in the fire. Might I suggest putting most away until you finish one project? Finish the one that gives you the most joy first, then move on. I’m not ADHD, but I am ADD. I know how easily I can get overwhelmed when I have too many projects going at the same time. Nothing gets done.

    • hafong says:

      Good suggestion, Eydie. For now I’m concentrating on my cross stitch and tablecloth. The tablecloth is almost finished. If I can stay on track on doing 20 minutes blocks of stuff, I’m not overwhelmed. I have trouble stopping at anything if I’m into it, especially a good book or tv.

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